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Last Man Standing

The new iPhone 5 has arrived! You need to pre-order and then wait in line to be the first in your country to get one. The tech savvy consumer is feeding this frenzy seduced by its newest features “the thinnest, lightest, fastest” instrument of all time.
The iPhone 4 could do most of what the new version does (speak, text, e-mail, Internet access), but this incarnation has better photo and video qualities. So, in addition to being able to tell your friends where and what you’re eating, and how many times you’ve gone to the bathroom, you can now also treat your friends to TV quality videos of these precious moments.

I haven’t pre-ordered my iPhone five (and I don’t have the iPhone 4); as a matter of fact, I have never owned a cell phone and may be the last man standing. It’s not that I don’t appreciate the magic of the computer (I could not function easily without mine). But the price I’d pay for a cell phone is too high…it’s simply too intrusive.

I don’t know anyone over 12 who doesn’t have a cell phone, and they carry it with them at all times. The phones are placed on dinner tables like a guest who might arrive later, and will demand immediate attention. It doesn’t matter if you are eating, talking, taking care of business, or making love, it will take you away from wherever you are. People say they can choose not to respond, but the buzz, ring, click, or vibration always gets attention, and even if you don’t respond it’s an intrusion that’s taken you someplace other than where you were.

In this culture we have become accustomed to instantaneous access to everything from facts to goods and services. If you are not available at a moments notice you could miss something important, more important than whatever you’re doing in the moment.

Gandhi’s advice for living a life of joy was that if you were going to be somewhere then be there; we live in a culture that is the antithesis of that perspective. It’s hard for us to really be where we are because there are so many other places we might also want to be.

I don’t want to be that available, so I’ve drawn the line. It’s not that I wouldn’t use the iPhone 5, because I would; the wonder of it (I could give up lugging my computer in a backpack), the ease of it (I can’t find public telephones anymore), the the seduction of it, and then ultimately the dependency.

I’m passing on the iPhones, because the price is too high. I need to get away, I don’t want to be that available. So to those who love me, and fear for my safety when I meander, love me enough to leave this last man standing being where he is.

12 Responses to “Last Man Standing”

  1. Janice says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! My family jokes how I don’t have my cell phone on me… and fortunately, our service at home is lousy….

  2. Jenna Stiles says:

    Good for you, Dr. H!! I applaud you for not being seduced by this electronic device that has captured the hearts and minds of almost everyone I know who uses a smart phone.

    Jenna Stiles

  3. chauncy says:

    Hi Karl – Thank you again for your words of wisdom. I would take the stand that whether one has a cell phone, computer or even a hardwired phone, that it is the personal responsibility of the owner/user to choose to be present. I agree that the cell phone I carry can be just another distraction, however, it serves me well as I often need to communicate while at location miles from public phone. The phone is also a safety net for myself and others I may come across while hiking or biking by myself. It is my chose whether is it on when hiking, eating dinner or even making love and when I do forget to turn off all notification, it can be as distracting as my hardwired phone when it rings. Chauncy

  4. chauncy says:

    BTW – I do not own an I-phone ;-)

  5. Robin says:

    You Rock!

  6. Delighted I may not be the last man standing, and appreciate you all. :O)

  7. Annie Morrison-Faltis says:

    Love that you have taken a stand. I sometimes leave mine in a drawer, it is the only way to focus on other activities. You definitely have taken a braver stance than I have taken. Bravo!

  8. Seshe says:

    How lovely it is to see such a successful professional role model take this position. When I expain to others that I prefer not to have the interruptions when I am with others. Honestly, the cell phone feels like an electronic leash, and always has. So call me one of the last women standing.

  9. Is your stance because you don’t think you could control the seduction of it and would become like the rest of us techno-overindulged beings? (<: You are right, it is just one more thing that we have to choose to control in our lives. But, oh, the sweet seduction of it all….

    I've had one since June, 2007 when they first came out (an "original" which I still have in a box, and now a 4 – no 5 in my future). I swore I would never again have such a thing once I retired, but it was just the coolest piece of technology that I had ever seen in my 30+ years in the technology field. It seduced me immediately.

    Be safe, if phoneless…

    Carol

  10. adam graham says:

    never had one – hopefully never will have one….good for you carl

  11. I’m safe and phoneless while the seduction rages and delighted I’m not alone. :O)

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Dr. Carl A. Hammerschlag, M.D., CPAE is a psychiatrist, author, and professional keynote speaker. He is an authority in the science of psychoneuroimmunology mind, body, spirit medicine and speaks about health and wellness, healing, leadership and authenticity . He has delivered motivational keynote speeches to corporate and business clients around the world.